Comments on: The Why’s of Personalities…

By: Crystal

Crystal — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 21:30:13 +0000

Case in point: It's 20 minutes (give or take) after I wrote that comment and Evyn just stomped off and told me "You don't like me. Nobody in my family likes me." because I told her she couldn't sass her father. That's just plain drama. Crystal’s last blog post..scenes from a hospital

By: Crystal

Crystal — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 21:19:33 +0000

Ugh, I can SOOOOO relate. And I have all the same questions myself. Evyn is me to a T and quite a bit more so at a younger age. And her ability to argue – it’s unbelievable for her age!

I love her so much but she’s stubborn and dramatic and difficult and has to negotiate the terms of EVERYTHING! Today I told her she could have 10 more minutes on the computer. “How about 11 or 12?” And she’s very literal; I have to be very careful what I say because she’s such a “thinker” that you never know how where she’s going to take it in her own mind…it’s exasperating.

I’m basically just hanging in there and trying to toe the line between being sensitive to her personality and still being the adult/Mom. She’s so independent and capable its a tough call sometimes…

I say pray about it…I bet God will give you some wisdom.

Crystal’s last blog post..scenes from a hospital

By: Kirstim

Kirstim — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 14:48:14 +0000

I think you are right. When a child is most like us I think we tend to become easily frustrated with them. My girls have some of both my hubby and I. My oldest though is more like her dad and they can totally in each other. It's most comical and they both know they are alike so they can work through it. My youngest is more like me. I think as we realize who they are and learn how to channel all thei personality traits in the right direction, they will shine!! In ways my girls follow the birth order path, but then they do something that breaks that mold. They are who they are. Kirstim’s last blog post..Update

By: Cindy B

Cindy B — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 23:58:24 +0000

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Cindy

By: Rachael

Rachael — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 13:03:37 +0000

I'm not sure why that is, but I can tell you that I have the most trouble getting along with my dad because we are very similar when it comes to personalities. You're not alone! Rachael’s last blog post..Parties, Problems. and Big Decisions

By: Muthering Heights

Muthering Heights — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 20:38:00 +0000

That’s a tough one…I’m sorry , but I’m just not at that point yet!

By: Jenn

Jenn — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:57:33 +0000

I think there’s actually a book on learning your child’s love language, possibly by the same author? I think it’s hard to relate to a child that’s the most like you because 1) you see your shortcomings in them and want to “work” them out of the child before they grow up and
2) opposite attract, so it’s more likely that someone a lot like you will get on your nerves (I get on my own nerves! ha). Think about all your friends…are any of them exactly like you in the way they see situations or handle stress, etc? Most likely, they aren’t and that’s why you’re good friends! That’s my 2 cents’ worth of psychology!!

Jenn’s last blog post..THE combine

By: Tina

Tina — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:36:53 +0000

I feel ya - I have these issues with my 1st born. We are VERY MUCH alike. Tina’s last blog post..I haven't fallen off the face of the earth.

By: Aprille

Aprille — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:33:34 +0000

Something that might be cool to do is try to figure out each child's love language. We think about it w our spouse but not always w our kids. Aprille’s last blog post..First Photoshopped Photo

By: Gina

Gina — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:20:39 +0000

I don't really have much of a clue either in that area. My son doesn't act at all like a first born but, my daughter does. I am convinced that 3 year olds definitely have their own separate "3 year old personality". I feel like I have an easier time relating to Kole because he is a little more like me but, with Ava I realize that it's more difficult with her because she is 3 and throws tantrums all of the time- who can relate to that? Every once in a while I see glimpses of who she really is, the 3 year old stuff is just a stage (I assure myself). I try to look past all of that and see the beautiful, articulate, strong young woman that I know she will grow into. But, trust me when "those days" hit- it's awful hard. Thank God for his grace that I hang onto every single day. Does any of that make sense? (sorry so long) Gina’s last blog post..Good Scents.